Updated: Jul 20
You are capable of much more than you think. The key is to decide whether you will listen to your mind and emotions OR keep going despite everything and everyone telling you to stop
Name something you want to do but can't seem to accomplish. It can be as simple as cleaning the closet or as complicated as learning to fly.
Are there some things we cannot do? Of course, there are. I may want to travel to the planet Mars, but at this time, I cannot; it is literally out of my reach. Unfortunately, in this life, we find ourselves limited by time, space, finances, health, abilities, and background, and we could continue the list. However, our thoughts and emotions are the most limiting part.
If you talk to someone who has endured extreme military training, they will tell you that your physical self is capable of much more than the limits of your thoughts. Your brain will say, "Stop, this is the limit," but you can go further and endure more than you can imagine. The key is to decide whether you will listen to your mind and emotions or keep going despite everything and everyone telling you to stop.
Let's cut to the chase for REAL Success! Here are four tips you can put into practice today.
What is your purpose in life? Does what you want to do fit into that purpose?
Set Objectives and Goals to provide an intentional path of stepped Success toward your ultimate purpose.
Use the R. E. A. L. Success guidelines to stay on track.
Don't give up. If you get off-track, fail, or fall, get back up and keep going. Successful people NEVER GIVE UP!
R = Relationship. It would help if you had people who believe in you and who will hold you accountable.
E = Equipping. Ensure you have everything you need to get to your destination. It's not good to run out of gas in the desert.
A = Attitude. Attitude is where emotions, mind, and thoughts come into play.
L = Leadership. Ensure you are under the Leadership of people and you are leading others.
Consider requesting the REAL Success Master Course and locate a good coach.
Our military personnel are successful because they work as a Team, are well-Equipped to do the mission, and accept Leadership. Their greatest asset is Attitude. It doesn't matter how they feel about it or what they think; they will get the job done no matter what. The failures they encounter along the way are only stepping stones to ultimate Success.
A few years ago, while on a Marine base supporting some of our jet aircraft, I happened to see this painted on the side of a building: VMAC "CAN DO!" It reminds all who pass by to remember that our focus is one of "CAN DO!" We may moan and complain, but we will be successful at mission completion. It has a little to do with our resources and much to do with our mental Attitude!
Mindfulness research indicates that our secondary thoughts significantly impact our secondary emotions. The following shows this idea:
Initial Input > Initial Reaction > Initial Thought >> Secondary Thought > Secondary Emotions
When something occurs, we have an initial reaction and initial thought about it. Someone sneaks up behind me and yells, "BOO!" My initial reaction is fear or shock or something that causes a chemical release in my brain. My initial thought might be that I need to turn and see who it is, run, or something. We don't have control over the initial input or reaction, which is the chemical flood, nor much control over the initial thought. The key is secondary thinking which generates emotions and further reactions.
For instance, my secondary thought might be centered around anger that this person scared and embarrassed me in the office. The more I think about the situation, the more emotional I feel; there is little and perhaps detrimental value. But if I am aware of the thought pattern, I can change how I think about it or interrupt the thought pattern, stopping the secondary emotions and their impact on my life and health.
As a sergeant leading military personnel, there were many times we didn't like to go out on field missions or secure sites or many other tasks. We grumbled and moaned, but we did it. As I look back, replacing our negative thoughts and talking with something positive could have helped. I'm not saying we don't share our dislike or be dishonest in how we feel. But there is a difference between sharing our thoughts vs. complaining.
THE BOTTOM LINE
It is not impossible to change a habit, but it can be difficult. Here are four resources to help.
The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John Maxwell
Mindfulness Techniques abound in an Internet Search
Atomic Habits by James Clear
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* Concepts and books by John Maxwell, James Clear, & Mindfulness Techniques
H Mark Taylor enjoys living on a farm with his life-long friend and partner, romping around with their German Shepherd companions, and practices enjoying life with mindfulness. He is a leadership & life coach with more than 20 years of experience and training, earned his Masters in Information Management from Washington University - St. Louis, and has multiple certifications in Leadership, Project Management, and Cyber Security. H Mark gives all credit to his wife, Young, and to God.