Have you ever had a phone call from someone trying to sell you something?
"Hi, This is Life Calling. Today only You have a special opportunity to buy your life back."
"What? I didn't know I sold it."
But yes, you did. You gave up on your dreams, hopes, and desires many years ago. Many people work at what they consider to be mundane jobs. They are not happy. Many people work at very prestigious jobs. They are also not happy.
When I coach people, one of the questions I like to ask is, "What does success mean for you?" Many people answer, "I want to be happy." If you ask anyone, "Do you want to be happy?" they would answer in the affirmative. Does anyone want to be sad or depressed? Judging from the countless books and articles on the subject, probably "No!"
Here is the difficulty, though; If you are not happy already, what situation, relationship, location, or thing will make you happy, and for how long? I know plenty of people who are not married who want to be married and plenty of people who are married who don't want to be married… at least not to the person they are married to.
Remember when you were a child, and you were looking forward to something special? Maybe you wanted a particular toy or wanted to do a specific activity? Perhaps you wanted to visit someone or go somewhere? Can you remember a time when you got what you wanted?
When I was a young boy, Grandma and Grandpa would take me to the Dime Store. In those days, they had things that only cost a few pennies or a dime. I was always excited because I knew Grandma and Grandpa would buy me some little trinket or toy. I would be happy, and it would be fun for a little bit, but today, I can't tell you one thing they bought me. Think about when you got something you wanted. Are you still happy about it? You may have been happy about it for a few minutes, but are you still happy today? No. The happiness from external experiences does not last; it probably wasn't as great as you thought it would be. Many children want to go to Disneyland and dream of going to Disneyland. I've been to Disneyland, and I've never seen as many unhappy children as I have at Disneyland; crying, frowning, upset, and tired. And their parents with them aren't thrilled either. They may have periods of fun, but they're not happy.
External happiness will never last or bring success or enable you to achieve your dreams, hopes, and desires. Let me paint you a picture that I think will help you grab hold of this. I enjoy laying down in the grass, watching the clouds, and just vegging out. It just really makes me happy. But I can guarantee no one will pass by and see me lying on our farm grass and say, "Oh, Wow! Now there is a successful guy!" Just because I’m happy doesn’t mean I’m successful. I know some very successful people, and they aren’t satisfied either. Happiness is not equated to success. External circumstances can make us happy for a moment, but it quickly fades.
External happiness doesn't automatically result in success. But if you have internal joy and happiness on the inside, it will last forever, and it doesn't matter what your circumstances are on the outside. Life can be difficult, painful, stressful, and overwhelming - but you can still be happy.
Have you ever watched the TV show "America's Got Talent"? There was a young lady who auditioned on America's Got Talent. She was a singer and pretty good too. Plus, she wrote her own song and performed it; she is very talented. At the end of her performance, the judges were blown away by her positive, happy attitude. They couldn't understand how she could be so upbeat. You see, she had stage 4 cancer with a 2% survival rate. This is what she said,
"You can't wait until life isn't hard anymore before you decide to be happy."
Happiness is a decision. That does not make you successful but can certainly help either way. Because if you are happy on the inside, you will also be happy on the outside.
There are times when it may not seem worth the effort. You'll want to give up, do something less complicated, take the easy way out, or abandon the cause. Achieving your dreams and success will cost you more than you planned in terms of time, more than you calculated in terms of finances, and more effort than you expected, and your relationships will be tested in the steel foundry. Additionally, there is always a risk that you will not achieve your dream or the success you are striving for. But you can still be happy.
Jane Marczewski, aka Nightbirde, got the Golden Buzzer from Simon and went on to fight to achieve her dream. However, she decided to drop out of the competition so she could put her effort into fighting for a higher goal: her life. It was a tough decision and a terrible disappointment for her. Some people would say she gave up and lost her chance for success. But I would say she is living out her success every day. You see, she has made it one more day every morning when she wakes up. She is alive, and it's a victory and a success.
If you are alive, it is never too late to begin to take steps to fulfill YOUR dreams, hopes, and desires. No matter how young or old, no matter the circumstances. It starts by changing your Attitude, becoming Intentional, and learning to accept the support of people who believe in you.
Everyone has a higher calling than just their job or trade. We often meet someone and say, "What do you do?" and then judge them according to their employment or position in life.
You are so much greater than your current role in life. Get intentional and FLY.
Fear need not control you
Life demands breath and imagination
You can Do It
[ringing phone - spam call]
"Today, I'm calling to give you a special opportunity. For a limited time, you can repurchase your life."
"Oh yeah? What will it cost me?"
H Mark Taylor enjoys living on a farm with his life-long friend and partner, romping around with their German Shepherd companions, and practices enjoying life with mindfulness. He is a leadership & life coach with more than 20 years of experience and training. He earned his Master's degree in Information Management from Washington University - St. Louis and has multiple certifications in Leadership, Project Management, and Cyber Security. H Mark gives all credit to his wife, Young, and God.
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